◀ Past article: What is developmental disorder?② ~ ADHD Basic Word and Example
In the previous column, I introduced the "characteristics" of ADHD.We mentioned some specific examples about the characteristics "careless, hyperactivity, and impulsivity", which is said to be common in ADHD people, but have a three -part column "What is a developmental disorder?"This time, which is the last time, I would like to take a simple but easy to deal with the characteristics.
What is the "dealing" of characteristics?
From here, I will tell you with a little experience of dealing with characteristics and how to work.
In my case, the most troublesome thing since I was a child was sleep. There are both sleeping too long (hypersomnia) and poor sleeping, so you can't sleep even if you sleep (insomnia / awakening mid -career), so you can't control your physical condition, resulting in a life rhythm. She was a child who was easy to get sick from disturbance. At that time, I didn't know much about developmental disorders, so I managed to get my family to solve it myself to buy tools, read a book on sleep, and try it out. There was no, or even if it had a temporary effect, it did not lead to a fundamental improvement, and it was at a loss. As with anyone, I want to fix my weaknesses and drawbacks as much as possible. If you bother others, or if you have any problems, you will try to do something. At that time, for example, you may want to talk to an acquaintance who can speak casually. Talking to people and having them understand their characteristics is also recommended as ADHD's solution, but there are big pitfalls here.
The characteristics appeared in a visible way, such as behavior, but the first column was that the cause was actually in the function of the brain.However, there is no difference that can be seen by the eyes, so it is almost impossible to judge it just by appearance.When you receive ADHD diagnosis, the first thing you hit is this wall.The problems caused by the characteristics are painful to the person, and it can be said that it is a "failure or weakness that everyone has experience" while disturbing the surrounding people.In fact, for those who do not know the story of ADHD at all, the word that the other person says with almost 100%probability is, "Isn't it everyone?"This is a challenge that ADHD people have very difficult.
The importance of knowing yourself ("self -understanding")
ADHD people may not be particularly unusual at first glance. Sometimes or sometimes anyone, whether you are not good at getting up in the morning, have many forgotten things, or just do not think. Occasionally, some acquaintances gave me advice from good intentions that I tried this kind of way and solved it. However, it is important to remember that those with developmental disabilities are "minority". The method that was effective for many people and was effective for regular developments could be counterproductive to ADHD people. The characteristics of ADHD appear in every scene in life. Several characteristics may appear as one state in combination, or conversely, one characteristics may be affected in every scene, and those who do not have a specialized knowledge are found only by their own power. Is very difficult. If you accept all the advice in that state, you may not only do the effect, but also blame yourself because it does not work, or you may be stressed by trying to deal with it. It's just like taking medicine that doesn't fit when you're sick. Even if it is effective for someone, if the root cause is different, it will naturally not only show the effect, but it may hurt the part that did not have any problems.
So how can you find a way that suits you?Of course, consulting people with specialized knowledge, but most importantly, understand your characteristics.By facing the painful experiences and failures, facing the events you've ever experienced, and noticing the true cause hidden behind you, you can find a way that suits you for the first time.It is called self -understanding.
First, as I wrote that the treatment of ADHD is "learning to deal with the disability itself", it is not possible to change the brain function, which causes a problematic situation itself, but self -understanding. As you proceed, you will see a new side. In the definition of the overall developmental disorder, there was an explanation that "the way of brain development is born and uneven." Conversely, there are fields that are weaker than people and fields that are good and strength than people. Knowing your characteristics, that is, "you don't have people around you, you are," not only can you find the cause of the problem that occurs, but also find things you are good at. 。 If you use it well, the concentration of the surroundings, the speed of the head rotation that can notice the surrounding situation and the event, and the different ideas from other people will be strength if you use it well.
Efforts for characteristics -"Division" and "Consideration" ~
I would like to introduce some specific examples.
First, the efforts of ADHD characteristics are broadly divided into "dealing" and "reasonable consideration (hereinafter" considered ")."Division" is a method that the patient himself tackles while discussing with the supporters.For example,
It varies from person to person.
"Consideration" refers to support, change of rules, and adjust the environment for people around you.I just want you to help you, but what kind of characteristics you have, knowing what you are not good at and what you are good at, and to cooperate to cover what you are not good at.You can talk with the business staff and create it.In this example,
Etc.As the word "rational consideration" is not for discrimination and patronage of a specific person, everyone is equal, with different individuality and weakness in each person, regardless of the disability.It is a way of thinking to gain rights and opportunities.Many measures and consideration are related, and above all, it is important to get to know your characteristics.If you don't know why, you feel uncomfortable, and you can reduce the stress of the people around you by explaining the situation and gaining your understanding.
Live as "yourself"
I myself have experience, but many people with developmental disabilities do not know the cause of their "difficulties" and are hurt by blaming themselves or bothering others.There are many.I do not know the cause, so I repeated similar mistakes, and the accumulation of negative experiences is imprinted with the feeling that "I am no good" and "I am not accepted by my surroundings".You may not be able to get out of the negative loop.As a result, as I mentioned in the previous article, some people may have depression and anxiety disorder as secondary disorders.
In addition, the image of failure is strongly rooted in the heart, and it may feel difficult to accept new ideas and methods.I am in the middle of my own understanding and dealing with the characteristics, and the advice of the supporters is quite advanced, as I learned while I was trying to deal with it with my own power.Sometimes it feels difficult to accept.
You don't have to deny all the rules and rules you have accumulated so far. However, if you can receive support according to the characteristics, you may be able to fully demonstrate your power, and if you understand your characteristics, "what you really want to do, what you like, and what you are good at". You may be able to discover. It is not easy to try a new method or tell people about your painful experience, but I think that "knowing" and "getting to know" is the best shortcut to find a way of life. increase. By doing so, you may notice the strengths and advantages you have not noticed before, and you can make use of it to help someone. The biggest goal of dealing with disability characteristics is to learn the idea of "taking care of yourself". Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the problem at hand, but in that case, I don't need to perfect everything, and I will evaluate what I'm doing now. I try to recall the words at the employment transition support establishment I go to.
Although it has become longer, I have explained developmental disorders, especially ADHD.I hope that this article will be useful for those who are actually struggling with their disability characteristics, are trying to improve them, or those who are supporting their families and friends.I am.
References
[Medical Note "ADHD"] https: // Medicalnote.JP/
