Do you know "Reset Syndrome"? Some of you may have thought, "I want to reset my relationships and go to a world where no one knows me." It is a term that refers to a person who actually breaks the online / offline relationship when he / she falls into such a psychology.
In this era, the conditions that make it easy to fall into such a state are in place, and many young people actually take action. I would like to explain the background, actual conditions, and risks of human relations reset syndrome.
Suddenly cut off all relationships
"I used to get along well, but suddenly disappeared from LINE. I was worried that I had done something, but I couldn't think of it, and when I asked a common friend, I wasn't the only one who was cut off. I understand, "says a woman who said her college friend had disappeared from LINE. She said, "I feel sad, lonely and disappointed. I hope you're fine."
I also had an acquaintance who recreated an account many times in the past. She was worried because she suddenly disappeared, but after a while she was revived with a new account, and it wasn't once. She was the one who did that on a regular basis.
Some people didn't mind if their account was renewed and applied for friends, while others stayed dead and never connected again. I'm sure there is a merit that human relations can be reset. It may have been cornered, but I felt it was a selfish act of swinging the opponent.
What kind of behavior do you take when you have a relationship reset syndrome? After deleting SNS accounts, deleting LINE friends, and deleting contacts on smartphones, communication is often lost. In some cases, they move or change jobs and lose their relationships, but in other cases, they lose contact when they go on to school or change jobs. As mentioned above, breaking a relationship also includes close friends. The cut side is hurt, and many people are worried without knowing the reason.
Is it a reset to escape the stress of relationships?
Some blame those who do this, "I think relationships can be reset in the same way as games." It's possible that you can't really see a real human being behind the screen and think you can reset it by deleting or blocking it. On the other hand, some people who are prone to stress in their relationships are removing it for self-defense in order to escape the stress.
Do you know the "block tournament" held on LINE? Post something like "I'm going to have a block tournament. If you don't want to be blocked, please like this post" under the pretext of "Because LINE has become heavier, organize your friends."
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It is thought that it is an act that you do not want to be the side to be blocked, and you want to be the side to comfortably control human relationships. Rather, a person who is afraid of being blocked or cut may be on the side of blocking or cutting, but it can be thought of as a psychology similar to this.
The impact of online relationships
Behind this is the fact that it has become easier to reset relationships. In the first place, in the case of young people, even real friends often do not know each other's phone numbers and email addresses and are connected only through SNS. If you block it on SNS or delete it from your friends, it's easy to break relationships.
It is said that the number of people who can be connected smoothly and stably is limited to 150 people (Dunbar's number), and we are connected too much by SNS. There will be a reaction to this too much connection.
Many people now have one account on SNS, and they continue to be exposed to the eyes of others anytime, anywhere. "I don't get a reply from LINE, but I post it on Twitter / Instagram." "I don't like myself, but I do it to that person." "I'm not invited to play by myself among my friends." As a result, you will be stressed.
Korona-ka has greatly reduced real interaction and many relationships have gone online. The number of real encounters has decreased, and we have met and interacted with each other through SNS and matching apps. Face-to-face chat has decreased, and commenting on SNS, chatting with distributors via video distribution, and chatting via voice chat in online games have become a major part of young people's daily communication.
It is possible that the fact that the act of resetting relationships is conspicuous among young people is partly due to the fact that Korona-ka has made relationships online and that Korona-ka has increased stress.
If you're really cornered, resetting isn't a bad thing either. But of course, there are also harmful effects. By repeating the reset, you cannot build a reliable relationship, you will fall into loneliness, and you will not have friends who can tell you what you really mean. Especially when you are young, it is also an important preparation period for building lifelong relationships. It would be good not only to cut it easily, but also to make up with the other party and rebuild the relationship.
Akiko Takahashi
IT journalist and visiting professor at Seikei University. She specializes in social media, teenage internet usage, and information moral literacy. She is familiar with smartphone and internet related incidents and troubles, and ICT education. She writes, lectures, appears in the media, and supervises. Kyoiku Shuppan A column is being published in a junior high school Japanese language textbook. She is a former elementary school teacher.
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